We are getting married this year. Second marriage for both. I am 49 and he's 54. We put together a guest list and it almost choked us to death. To make long torturous story short, the issue is inviting OBLIGATORY family members -- aka that whole "if you invite RHODA, then you HAVE TO invite REENIE AND ROBERTA." It's madness. It's not the money, so much as it's that -- a. I'm NOT into booking a dj, selecting a wedding GOWN, centerpieces, favors, yada yada. Just feel that it's too much, and that second weddings SHOULD be more low key. Option ONE -- have immediate family only. Then no one is excluded and upset. OPTION TWO -- invite immediate family, family members we have relationships with and WANT to be there, along with close friends that we WANT to be there. No explanations. No apologies. OPTION THREE -- have the huge wedding, invite everybody. What WOULD you do or what DID you do?