I took my 11-year-old AQHA mare to a flagging clinic yesterday. It was a fun morning and my horse tried hard and was pretty interested in the flag. The clinician noticed something that that we worked on a little in the moment but I'd like to gather ideas about for my work with this horse going forward. He saw that as soon as things sped up a little bit, she started to anticipate the stop by lifting her head and tensing her jaw, and told me that I was too tense/hard with my hands for the stop. We worked on slowing back down and then turning without a distinct stop first to follow the flag to encourage her not to anticipate and tense up, which went well. What would you to do to train ME not to change my hands/level of tension when adding speed? I think the problem is me not shifting very well from slow, calm, steady work to still being the same with added pressure and speed. I am comfortable/not afraid of speed, but I need to get better at helping my horse to be quick and relaxed at the same time. Obviously I need to stop as much with my seat/position at speed as I do when working slowly, but I'd live some ideas for HOW to make myself do that. I started this horse myself and am really happy with how steady, confident, and willing she is. Now wanting to help her AND ME to still be all those same things when speed/pressure is involved. For reference, I rode her yesterday (and most of the time) in a plain snaffle but am willing to try other bits if needed. Thanks for your ideas!