Should unhealthy people with lots of health problems be allowed to adopt children?

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  1. sorrell

    sorrell Senior Member+

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    Just curious as to what you think.
    If you knew a couple that were having financial difficulties, multiple medical issues, job loss, career changes, etc. and they wanted to adopt a child, do you think an agency would let them?
     






  2. Spork

    Spork Senior Member+

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    Probably not here but things are usually very different from across seas. Most adoption agencies here wouldn't see them financially stable or settled enough to take on a child
     
  3. ParkedOut

    ParkedOut Senior Member+

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    Thats a good question. So many things are taken into consideration.

    In my opinion, I would say that since anyone is subject to die at anytime one cannot just not adopt kids out on the idea that they may someday be an orphan again.
     
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    trish12 Senior Member+

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    I would say no..I think there is some pretty strict rules when you are trying to adopt..I think the agencies come to your home make sure it is suitable for this child and and long after it is adopted...you are like on a probation period...I heard it was pretty tough to adopt....
     
  5. alaskan appy

    alaskan appy Senior Member

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    Having adopted 3 children i can tell you that thru an angency they would have it almost impossible. If they did a private adoption (our first we knew the girl) most likely they could manage it, we did. Going thru foster/adopt and getting an older child is easier but still problematic. As for over seas adoption it is pricey! You have to have $$ for lawyers, travel, bribes, etc. It never seemed quite right to me that a childless couple should have to stay that way because of finances or health issues when so many children need a loving home and if nature wasnt so cruel they could have as many as they chose to and noone can say no even if they are terrible parents! Many of our foster children were the 6th, 8th or 10th child that the drug addicted or mentally ill mother raised none of but she couldnt be stopped cuz it was her "right" to procreate"! Good luck to whoever wants to adopt. I can tell you horror storeis about both foster and adopt and none of them have to do with the child or what is best for it!
    Peace Connie in Alaska
     
  6. Jim_in_PA

    Jim_in_PA Senior Moderator

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    In my experience (being an adoptive parent), most, if not all agencies will screen for health problems and many adoption programs require physicals and medical information to be supplied by the applicants' physicians. Sometimes certain medical issues are accepted if they are in remission/controlled and there are not other factors that present. Most programs also require some level of financial stability. All of this comes under the home study process and there will always be some variation depending on the agency/program/worker involved...but in general, a family with multiple issues like you describe will likely have difficulty with adoption.

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    Spork, international adoption is even harder under those circumstances...the "climate" out there right now is very sensitive due to a number of unfortunate incidents.
     
  7. cschattner

    cschattner Senior Member+

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    My parents got denied becuase of my dad's crohns disease even though we had a doctor write out a letter stating that my dad's life has not been shortened in any way due to the medical conditon. I am glad we got denied since my mom did go mental but the reason for being denied was just plain dumb since my dad's condition does not effect his life span, at the time we also where not as badly in the financial hole as we are now.
    I do think certain medical conditions do call for being denied adoption but others can be lived with. Finincially speaking a minimum income should be required as caring for a child is very expensive and a person needs to have the means to care for one.
     
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    Donavans Fire Senior Member+

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    I don't know much about adopting through an agency or privately. I'm pretty sure you could adopt through foster care. I was a little surprised earlier I heard you need to be married 3 years in order to adopt from another country through one agency... don't have to be married at all through foster.
     
  9. Kicks

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    HMMM! There's probably some that do! My thoughts. Financial issues/problems - NO can't afford to, just adopting to get money from government. Health issues, possibly depending on the issues and the issues that a child might have., ie a deaf couple adopting a deaf child - there are many other examples dealing with health that could be appropriate. Also the age of the child. Soo many want babies but there are many older children who would love to have homes so an older family should not be a problem.
     
  10. Jim_in_PA

    Jim_in_PA Senior Moderator

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    Many international programs require minimum 2 years of marriage. The reason is the perceived need to insure that the relationship is stable first before going through the very stressful adoption process. (yes...it is very stressful. Trust me) And many foreign countries have reduced or eliminated singles from adopting. For example, China recently made it more or less impossible for singles to adopt anymore.
     






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