Does anyone have any advice to help me relax in the saddle, nothing is wrong with my seat,just im extremely tense and I cant seem to relax. Like for instance instead of holding with my shoulders-i tense up my forearm to hold my horse, and my elbows are not relaxed its like lock jaw. I feel so bad im like this. im more relaxed bareback then i am in the tack. does anyone else have this problem? and how'd you over come it?