Omg, a 'Dear John' letter. You handled it better than I did. Aforementioned ex Bob was stalking me online post breakup, and drunk dialing me in the middle of the night. He didn't realize I knew he was stalking me. Now, this is where my cruel streak reared its ugly head.... At the time, I was a member of a really big, active board. Over a hundred really active, daily members, dozens more casual ones. Mostly middle aged conservative white ladies. I had been a member for eight years at the time, and was well known and almost universally adored. I was 21 years old, and at least a decade or two younger than anyone else. And this is where my ex thought it would be a good place to stalk me. I did not let on to anyone I knew he was there. The board knew the whole story, and had held my hand post breakup, and were generally feeling a bit protective of me. So I started a thread. I titled it something self-pitying, and let loose. My ex was stalking me! I was having such a horrible week! Why is he doing this, he is 33 years old, he should be able to handle a girl breaking up with him, I am so mad, tired, etc. And then I stepped back and watched the fireworks, knowing full well he was reading every. Single. Word. The thread had dozens of replies within and hour, hundreds within a day. Absolutely viscous attacks, demeaning hid mental state, erm, 'size', family attachments, everything. I would occasionally pop in to 'defend' him, but there was no stemming the tide. It was calculated. It was cruel. It wss a deliberate attack on a sad and lonely alcoholic struggling to come to terms with a recent breakup. And he never called me again, so I say it was effective.