I was having a conversation over lunch with some horsey friends the other day about the recent trail ride we did. It was a really great ride. My mare had one stupid moment that was quickly and easily managed and there were a few hiccups on the way but we all remembered "the girl on the black horse". This poor girl was extremely over horsed and the horse appeared to be in pain at certain points of his outbursts. She lost control and the horse began ramming into other horses on the ride, getting kicked, bucking, rearing...it was just awful. She was ponied back to the start of the ride with a very sweaty, fire breathing horse. She was shaking with fear and bawling. So i thought this could be a good discussion. How to you make sure at any event, you are not "the girl on the black horse" that was going to get everybody hurt. Although we all felt just awful for her, it was a situation that shouldn't have happened. 1. Know your horse and be honest about your abilities. Could I have handled that horse? Probably not, as he did appear to be in pain with his kicking out, ear pinning etc.There's no amount of riding or cowgirl up that can over come a horse that truly hurts and is uncomfortable. Now you.