Extremely overprotective mother

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  1. slc

    slc Senior Member

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    My friend's mom was extremely overprotective of him after two of her other sons died (one of illness as an infant, one in a car accident as an adult). I'm stunned at how severely it affected him.

    Have you met someone who grew up extremely over-protected, even one of your own siblings? How did it affect the person? What do you think about it?
     
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    Over protection to the extreme is based from mental illness. Anxiety, fear, codependency - leads to children who also being fearful, anxiety ridden who must seek out others to mentally support them.

    Sounds familiar huh?

    Guess humans are not so different from horses after all lol
     
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    Of course it's harmful. How is a child able to develop a healthy self conficende when it's not allowed to do things, try things, be socially active but constantly gets too much and too negative attention and the mother as the childs role model sees the world as a fundamentally hostile and dangerous place?

    Overprotecting is a subtle form of child abuse and can result in mental problems that are as severe as the problems of neglect victims. Probably the most likely are personallity disorders and anxiety disorders, or in milder cases symptoms that go in that direction. If you get raised that way it makes you fundamentally unfit for life.
     
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    slc Senior Member

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    So there is no way to overcome that?

     
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    Therapy
     
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    What type? This fellow talks about his problems a lot (to everyone) but that doesn't seem to change anything.
     
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    Psychological therapy ...Lol
     
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    It depends on whether or not the kid has the same personality traits as the parent or not. Tend towards being fearful and overprotective by nature, and that doesn't mean that every one of your kids will have your personality. Nature over nurture.

    My mother would not let me do ANYTHING until I was 12. I had to get up before her and escape. Didn't make me “fearful, introverted, antisocial,“ etc, etc.
     
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    He'd probably beech even if he had a perfect childhood. Some people just fixate and blame others instead of solving their own issues. If all he does is talk about “poor me, looky how bad I had it“, a good kick in the backside might help.
     
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    Even if the kid didn’t seem to have the similar traits - he/she would definitely benefit from therapy to help the kid understand his/her relationship with the mother and others.
     
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