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Exercises to build confidence under saddle?

Discussion in 'Horse Chat' started by noreins, Apr 19, 2017 at 6:30 AM.

  1. RelaxMax

    RelaxMax Senior Member

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    slc: says something nice and understanding??? what???

    slc: clarifies that she didn't mean for it to be all that nice

    slc you make my days complete
     
  2. apndi

    apndi Senior Member

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    ok so I'm not the only one that's slightly confused by that?
     
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  3. slc

    slc Senior Member

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    That is absolutely awesome.
     
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  4. slc

    slc Senior Member

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    It has nothing to do with me being nice or not nice. It's all about striking a balance. Understanding it, but not giving into it.

    You don't get what I mean or what I've seen. I've seen people destroyed by it. It's no game.
     
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  5. noreins

    noreins Senior Member

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    I just wanted to pop in and say thank you again for all the advice! I had the best ride on him that I've had in months! It wasn't much but it was a huge win for me. No panic attack, not even any real nervousness and I was even away from home.
     
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  6. mooselady

    mooselady Senior Member

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    :cooldance: That is fantastic, so happy for you.

    Just a reminder, the whole thing is like a game of snakes and ladders, today you landed on a ladder, and took a race up the board, WHOOT. Just remember that the next roll COULD, just maybe hit a snake, but just keep rolling and you will land on another ladder, promise.
     
  7. noreins

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    I hit a small snake just the other day so I needed this boost haha. It's hard sometimes to keep things in perspective. Any little set back usually really gets me down but I'm working on that. I'm glad I decided to venture back to this forum after such a long hiatus. :D
     
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  8. Alsosusieq2

    Alsosusieq2 Senior Member

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    I didn't have problems with anxiety till I was almost forty going through a vicious divorce. Full blown panic attacks. So yeah, I know the difference between rational fear and anxiety. I got lucky and after years of no help therapy and xanax they stopped. I almost died a few years ago and for some reason coming to terms with that stopped them dead in their tracks. I always had been a no nonsense person and before, I'd have never understood anxiety.

    I don't know what to tell you though. Mine were social anxiety and never bled over into horses. Perhaps you might wait till you can take med again.. Idk. Get a horse you want to ride and take lessons. Do what you want.

    Learn breathing lessons, that helps a lot as being anxious we hold our breath and it makes it worse. I wish you the very best.
     
  9. Alsosusieq2

    Alsosusieq2 Senior Member

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    If this manifested while you were pregnant it's very understandable and actually logical. You need to see a therapist. A good one will help. If it did, even you know why it happened internally and you can get it turned around I think pretty easy. Good luck.
     
  10. noreins

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    I've suffered from anxiety for most of my life, from a very very young age. But it never bled over into my horse life until my daughter was born. I had miserable postpartum anxiety and should have reached out but I was TERRIFIED they would take my baby from me. Eventually it eased up. I really wish I could afford therapy. I need to try to see what my insurance might cover I guess.

    I've been nervous on a horse before, especially after a wreck or something, but I've never been so sure I was going to meet my demise. On a horse who has a tendency to fall asleep if we stay in one spot for too long. :faint: I've come a long way though so I'm focusing on that.
     

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