Benefit of the doubt? *criticism*

Discussion in 'Horse Chat' started by Heavenly Jumper, Nov 21, 2010.

  1. Bakkir

    Bakkir Senior Member

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    Well so far I like the changes. Makes using my phone much easier. I agree the colours are a bit hard on the eyes. But I had trouble reading the other format too.
     
  2. Katieandpuzzforever

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    I am with u th
    i am with u there a lot of things we can do to help horses there is a horse down by me and it has like 15 16 diffrent people down to him and he gets all the atention a normal horse gets and i all way think y have they just abandond this lovely creature hope u like this katie xxx
     
  3. Alsosusieq2

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    Wow.. it's a long situation that happened and a lot of people got involved with a scenario that was unusual to say the least. Noticeable points.. repetitive requests were made for help although logical answers were already given. Red flags started popping up for me not on the commentators but on the OP... repeated mention of danger etc when the thread had died down so on. There was a really unbalanced situation going on and I sensed we were getting played by getting emotionally involved. Think about it. I just got through reading the entire original thread (what wasn't deleted if any). It's very had on moderators ohmygosh is it ever. More than ten yrs ago I managed a large website after being a senior member and the stress for a moderator can be major. The social aspects that seemed emotionally odd to me I felt to heart and had dealt with before. Not everyone is eating a full bag of chips no matter what their age and it's an uncomfortable position to be in as a monitor. I think it happened.. it's passed and a lot was learned. Respect moderators seriously..they're human and care a lot from what I saw. Senior members that are level headed know who they are and tried to help in a unhealthy/unhelpable situation the best they could. I thought all in all it was pretty well handled except for someone who's been banned repeatedly trying to last word everything and upsetting the apple cart. I'm glad this is a fairly rare situation.
     
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  4. ASBgirl

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    I don’t care what may be said on this forum. My horses’ performance speaks for itself. I find the good comments informative and the mean stuff...well, just stupid or entertaining. You all can figure out where you fit in, but a horse can’t lie.
     
  5. ASBgirl

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    I agree with you about the painstakingly detailed grooming ASBs receive. Have shown them all my life and, as a backyard person, felt I had to be MORE than perfect to be competitive. Now am showing Ky Mountain Horses- they barely trim bridle paths or clip fetlocks! My boyfriend, who was a farrier for a Rocky Mountain barn for years, says I am wayyyy overkill, but I plan to outshine them all!
     
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  6. ASBgirl

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    Those being abusive need to consider: riding is an expensive pursuit with small financial returns for the participants most of the time. An instructor had better be doing things to interest people in riding and cultivate passion, rather than having the attitude of “if I can’t intimidate you into being a better rider, you don’t deserve to ride “! One day they could all be walking down the road talking to themselves, and at the rate the horse biz is going this is a possibility. Being right does not give one the right to be an ass hole about it!
     
  7. ASBgirl

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    When the “animal welfare “ phrase shows up, I get right out of that discourse and move on. Am interested in training, not brushing and feeding horsies. Time to move on goodbye.
     
  8. Mcdreamer

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    I've learned a butt-ton in the past three years about different levels or standards of care. The woman I board with is very financially constrained. She's divorced and works two jobs to make ends meet (I am the only boarder). She feeds her horse sweet feed and the typical two flakes of hay AM and PM. I would never in a million years call this abuse or neglect. I've seen and rehabbed horses that were skin and bone because their owners just didn't feed them. Is she feeding the way I do? No. I use slow feed nets and I feel RB and alfalfa pellets along with hay. But it doesn't mean she loves her horse any less and isn't doing the very best by him. She had the vet out for him a few weeks ago because of an abscess. Definitely can't afford it but she did it and she was out there soaking that hoof every day despite working two jobs. She also lets me help in exchange for money off my board even though she doesn't make a whole lot of money. She's a good person and doing the best she can by her horse.

    There is a huge difference between our standards of care but sometimes we need to look past that, unless there are obvious sights of abuse or neglect, and look at the person. Remember their intentions. What is the best that they can do for their horse? Horses are pretty resilient. I really do think it's the people in their life that determine how happy they are.
     

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